What We Cook Together: Chili
While teaching the art of making Chili, Jack discusses how many things that Parenting and Cooking have in common. Jack demonstrates how cooking, like parenting, is much more of an art than a science. Jack also teaches some of the kitchen basics like the proper and easy way to dice an onion and how to properly hold a knife.
What We Cook Together: Bolognese Sauce
Jack introduces the cornerstone of his parenting program: being present. This means not just being around your children, but actually focusing on them each day. When a parent brings this seemingly simple idea into their home, benefits can be seen immediately. Jack pairs the idea making this small change in your household with making small changes to the Chili recipe to create a Bolognese sauce instead. Ultimately, this chapter is focused on the ways in which small changes can create major differences.
What We Cook Together: Salted Baked Fish
While making a Salted Baked Fish for date night, Jack discusses the idea that if you are not happy with your life, your kids will know it and will feed off that negative energy. To remedy this problem, Jack discusses the benefits of being present with our parenting partners, taking care you your own needs ahead of your children’s, and the importance of open communication.
What We Cook Together: Filet Mignon, Baked Potato, Sautéed Broccoli
In the midst of making a meal where most of the cooking will need to get done in a very short period of time, Jack demonstrates how proper scheduling and preparation can make for an easy and calm crunch-time. Jack pairs his preparation of baked potatoes, sautéed broccoli, and filet mignon with tips and strategies of how to save time and create openings for time in your day for yourself.
What We Cook Together: Hearty Chicken Noodle Soup
While making Hearty Chicken Noodle Soup, a classic comfort food, Jack discusses the costs of removing pain and failure from our children’s lives. He balances the pressure created by modern society’s views of children and parenting with the needs of children, and he shows the benefits of allowing failure back into our homes.
What We Cook Together: Upside-Down Pizza
Jack discusses how teaching children how to fall safely - and get back up - is one of the greatest gifts a parent can give his or her children. This includes ideas about setting boundaries, offering unsolicited advice, and the benefits of knowingly allowing children to make, and learn from, mistakes. As he turns helicopter-parents worlds upside down, Jack pairs these lessons with the steamy, molten goodness of upside-down pizza.
What We Make Together: Hamburgers (Not as simple as you think)
Jack’s entire parenting philosophy is based on one simple, irrefutable truth: parents know more about their own children than anyone else does. This chapter discusses how this idea needs to be brought into parents’ lives more often. This lesson is paired with hamburgers that are individualized for each member of the household without adding a lot of extra work.
What We Make Together: Chicken Parmesan
A discussion about the differences between discipline and punishment evolves into a look into common rules set up around family meals and other potential disciplinary “mistakes.” And while Jack discusses our inevitable parental anger, he takes out his frustrations on the chicken breasts being pounded flat for an amazing Chicken Parmesan.
What We Make Together: Tomato-Basil Soup, Grilled Cheese
While creating a tomato-basil soup to go with an amazing grilled cheese, Jack offers a solid, yet completely flexible, discipline strategy to combat even the worst of your children’s behavior. He demonstrates how this system works with the three “never should happen” things that all kids do at some point in their young lives (Aggression, Lying, and Running Away), as well as with lessor issues like tantrums, whining, and talking back.
What We Make Together: Crab Cake Muffins
Now comes the hard part of a discipline plan: putting it into practice. A big part of Jack’s strategy is to assess what caused the unwanted behavior in the first place. It involves guesswork, a search for clues, and figuring out how to add them up to a conclusion. While making crab cake muffins, Jack discusses empathy for your child - and how that can, not only help you in this assessment of these situations, but also help you craft the right response to unwanted behavior.
What We Make Together: - A Mystery Dessert
While an unopened can of sweetened condensed milk mysteriously transforms itself in a pot of boiling water, Jack discusses the differences between common parental expectations and actual childhood milestones, and how we often get them wrong. During a wrap-up of the major discussion points of the entire parenting program, Jack creates a tasty dessert as a reward for all the hard work of the parents that read and apply the lessons found in this book to their everyday lives.
The BP10EM Recipe Book is filled with all the recipes we make in our program - along with a few helpful Parenting worksheets to help you keep track of how you are putting all the parenting ideas we talk about in each session into actual practice.